Saturday, December 7, 2013
Sexism in weight loss

By Tony Wagner Citizen Columnist

Dear Mr. Fitness:

My husband and I are both in our 50s and have exercised religiously for the last two years. We have both experienced wonderful results as far as weight loss goes. While I originally started weight exercise to prevent osteoporosis, I have found it helps with my "saggies." (That's the hanging stuff on the upper arms.) Why is it my husband keeps on losing weight when it has slowed down terribly for me? We try to eat the higher protein diet and not too many carbohydrates, but I'm disappointed with how fast the weight comes off for him! I know that sounds bad, but he points out this fact all of the time to me! I think he believes I'm a closet eater! Please advise.

-- Not fair

Dear Not fair:

Welcome to "Mr. Fitness: Marriage Counselor at Large." I believe I am going to get in the middle of something that I think I should avoid! I will instead adroitly sidestep any real involvement.

You sound like a wonderful couple! I'm happy to hear that you are enjoying the benefits of exercise and eating well. Continue the good work! (How do I sound so far?) The one item you should remember is that your husband is a male. (No kidding, right?) He possesses something that you don't. (No, not that.) I mean more lean muscle mass and higher amounts of circulating levels of testosterone.

Males are less likely to carry more body fat than females, too. The one reason females have more fat than males is the ability to grow a baby within you. In order to have a baby, the female must be fertile. To be fertile, one must carry more fat. Female: less muscle, more body fat. Male: more muscle, less body fat. You cannot compare yourself to your husband when it comes to weight loss or you will get upset.

Does this paint a discriminatory picture? Heck yes! Is all lost? Heck no!

Ignore your husband. Well, his weight loss, that is. Concentrate on what you can do to undo this injustice. Add one additional day of weight training to your workout schedule. Make sure you are doing a split routine when you lift weights -- meaning don't work the same muscles consecutively. Try instead to set up your exercises so that you work each body part once per week. Try to increase the weight you use every other week. This will ensure your muscles will respond. Adding weight makes them not only stronger but also metabolically more active. (This is what you want.) That's what burns the fat.

To help this along, eat a high-protein fare daily. Try to eat 50-75 grams of protein daily. Just to give you an idea as to what it would look like, that works out to one to two cans of tuna. Hopefully, this gives you a real-world idea of what that many grams of protein looks like.

Try these simple ideas I have provided you. I think you will be happy with the results.

Remember, I am cheaper than a divorce attorney!

-- Mr. Fitness

Tony Wagner, aka Mr. Fitness, has over 30 years of fitness and nutritional expertise. A certified personal trainer and fitness author, he has helped thousands of people get into and stay in shape. Contact him at:, Facebook us, and stop by Bodyzone Fitness Center, 2740 N. Roosevelt Blvd., 305-292-2930.